Comments on: Room for thanks

By: E.P.

E.P. — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 02:49:07 +0000

I know I’m really, really late on this, but I know how you feel. Since W and I got engaged, we’re talking about doing the holidays together. But since my parents are divorced, it’s tough because my mother expects me to come home for every holiday. (She cried last year when I couldn’t make it for Thanksgiving and came to me.) … This time of year stresses me out, too, and I know things went relatively well that weekend. Which makes me smile for you.

… I hope we can get to that point with my family.
.-= E.P.´s last blog ..On wedding planning =-.

By: Andy

Andy — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 12:38:13 +0000

In my case, I don’t have a REAL family dinner to attend, since I’m spending Christmas in France, and I have no REAL family around here.

Should I go to one of my friends’ cities? Should I go see my parents’ friends? Should I stay here in Strasbourg by myself (not a good option)?

I’m also confused!
.-= Andy´s last blog .."I have to ask my mother". =-.

By: MinD

MinD — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 21:06:08 +0000

I have struggled with the same things – divorced parents and step-parents on each side, plus grandparents who just HAVE to see me – for so long, and it’s only eased slightly by the fact that I live 500 miles away and I just can’t get “home” for the holidays as easily.

My parents divorced when I was 5 and I don’t remember a single thing about it other than my mom telling us we were going to live at grandma’s (which I was excited about, because my grandmother spoils me rotten!). I’m surprised at the difference one year makes with you knowing how sad you were at first, at only 6 years old.
.-= MinD´s last blog ..…I’m a Toys ‘R Us kid. =-.

By: Lauren From Texas

Lauren From Texas — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 13:14:43 +0000

EMAILING YOU NOW. :) .-= Lauren From Texas´s last blog ..Q&A – Volume 3 =-.

By: Chelsea Talks Smack

Chelsea Talks Smack — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 22:07:23 +0000

This was beautiful, you’re so lovely.
.-= Chelsea Talks Smack´s last blog ..R.E.S.P.E.C.T….it isn’t just an Aretha song. =-.

By: Walking on Sunshine

Walking on Sunshine — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 02:41:51 +0000

I can imagine why you'd consider the holidays so stressful... that sucks, but remember that you have a wonderful hubby and the holidays are all about good times so try to make the best of everything. Sending you lots of love xo .-= Walking on Sunshine´s last blog ..The Day I met Michael Buble =-.

By: Erin

Erin — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 19:17:18 +0000

Oh, girl. I have high blood pressure just from reading how many holidays you have! Thanks for sharing that. Family's not always fun, aye? I hope it goes better this year for you. .-= Erin´s last blog ..flu season. =-.

By: Rugged Fox

Rugged Fox — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 17:52:59 +0000

In the future, I shall be the aid that helps you make it through the holidays. So after every dinner, I will be there to nightcap with copious amounts of red wine. .-= Rugged Fox´s last blog ..getting to know me =-.

By: erin

erin — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 15:15:23 +0000

yet again, i think you are writing about something which many of us struggle with regularly.

i have one family. thankfully (since i do think my parents are well suited for each other) there have been no divorces, and both my brothers married insanely wonderful women.

so why is it complicated for me? hard to explain. i’m the witness of the family. the one who takes it all in, processes it and internalizes everything. i am the mediator, appeaser and love-giver. i’m the one who makes sure everyone else’s holiday is perfect.

and in doing so, i get short changed majorly. is it selfish for me to admit that? that the holidays are confusing becausei’m so worried about everyone elses feelings that in turn i get the shit end of the sick. i don’t know i’m babbling. i think the older i get the more i understand all of these experiences. maybe it helps me understand it more and maybe it makes me understand it even less.

sigh. things will always work out. i think we are better off than other people simply because we look at these situations and internalize them.

and i’m so happy for you, because you are creating YOUR FAMILY even if right now it is just you, your husband and your gorgeous puppies.
.-= erin´s last blog ..extra time in the day =-.

By: Erin

Erin — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 15:06:27 +0000

I get so frustrated at the holidays. One year, I ate three different turkeys on Thanksgiving just so that no one would feel bad. It sucks because it's impossible to do the "right" thing. .-= Erin´s last blog ..Roosday-Tuesday (On Monday) =-.