{One of my best friends, Jennifer}
If I told you that one of the most important girls in my life was beautiful, you would say “Sure, friendship is beautiful.” But you wouldn’t understand. You would have to know her to understand. But if you could talk with her, have her smile at you, and know the look she gets in her eyes when she’s genuinely surprised, or when she talks about her younger siblings then you might start to know how beautiful she is.
If I told you she was kind, you might think, “Sure, she looks kind. She’s probably kind.” but you wouldn’t know what it’s like to have her to call when you need someone. But when the one man who I thought might love me if I only tried hard enough moved away loving me, and then called home leaving me I didn’t know up from down. I was lucky, she was his best friend and she took me by the shoulders and shouted through my pain that it would be okay. That she’s been there, and that it has been okay. She let me talk to her too late into the night too many nights in a row, until finally I could stand on my feet again. Until I had to laugh and say she was right, because here he was in my life again, different but amazing. So she’s not just kind, but she’s also wise and generous, and you can understand why 5 years later hearing her voice is such an immense comfort to me.
If I told you she was a good friend, you could think “Sure, kind people are good friends.” but you wouldn’t know that she walked me through the whole start of my dating the boy I would end up marrying. I had panic attacks, broke up with him five or six times, and was convinced it was doomed. She’s the type of friend who would come when I called her right before a date, freaking out in a fit of panic only a 19 year old can muster, and insisted that she needed her to come on that date because Mister was older and I didn’t know him. In spite of how awkward it was, and how it was obvious that I actually invited a chaperone on our date, she came. And she was amazing company. And the date went fine. Which makes her not just a good friend, but a rare friend, because however stupid it seemed she just knew I needed her there.
If I told you she was talented, you could think “Sure- young actresses are all talented.” but if you saw her on stage or in front of a camera, you would be left short of breath. If you saw her first billboard (STILL NOT OVER IT, MISS!!!) or knew the passion she has for acting, you would know in a moment. She isn’t like anyone else you’ve met, not even for a minute.
So eventually, of course she has to move. She can’t stay here- she has so much life in her, the prairies would waste it and Toronto makes sense.
But no matter how much sense it makes, I am decidedly a wuss about her heading to the big city and this past week has been difficult for me. I’ve been messy, and while I know she isn’t leaving my life, and that now I’ll have a real reason to visit Toronto… in these days right before she leaves I can’t keep myself from thinking about how up and down lucky I am to have wandered into her life, and how thankful I am that when I reached out, she responded.
She is the person who has walked with me through my late teens and early twenties, encouraging me and reminding me that things will be alright. She’s leaving for Toronto in a matter of moments, but for now, happy birthday Jenn. The next time I see you we’re going to have to make up for lost time.
How do you make up for lost time with friends who move away? Do you have any tips on long distance friendships? Tell me a story. I need stories today.
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My two closest friends live in Orlando, FL (4 hours away from me) and Buffalo, NY (a long way away from me). We try to make it a point that the three of us meet us at least 2 times a year. We also plan things together, like running our first half marathons next March. It’s tough. There are night I feel like dying because I wish they were here so badly, but then I call/text/blog comment one of them and the world doesn’t seem so bad. One of them has a blog as well so that helps me feel connected to her. Perhaps your friend might start a blog as well, even if it’s just to keep you updated. Facebook helps too.
I hope you feel better!
Camile
.-= Camile´s last blog ..First Week of School Laughs (?) =-.
It sucks, I know…. but the thing that can make it better is knowing that
with all the different types of communication tools the large distance
seems a lot smaller.
A phone call is still a phone call the only thing is now its a 2 hour flight
instead of a 20 minute drive.
It’s sounds like the bond is strong…. distance won’t break that.
You make me wish I had a friend like that!
Mine are mostly in another country, but I know that no matter how long a gap in between us seeing eachother, as soon as we do, it’s like I’ve never been away.
.-= pinkjellybaby´s last blog ..Sparkly =-.
You make me wish I had a friend like that!
Mine are mostly in another country, but I know that no matter how long a gap in between us seeing eachother, as soon as we do, it’s like I’ve never been away.
It’s the worst. My best friend of 20+ years and I never lived more than 20 minutes apart until I moved to Chicago. I miss her. But.
We visit. We talk on the phone everyday after work. We email during the work day.
It sucks, but you’ll find something that works for you.
.-= The Maiden Metallurgist´s last blog ..Grumble, Grumble =-.
This is awesome, girl. I love stories about friendship. And as you already know, one of my best friends lives in Alberta – we make it work by talking on the phone once a week, talking on skype, facebook, etc. It’ll work out. True friendships never diminish.
xo
.-= Lauren From Texas´s last blog ..The Moment You’ve All Been Waiting For… =-.
When I was 17, just about to begin my last year of high school, my parents decided that we needed to move. They packed up my house and my family moved 7 hours away from my little hometown. I left my boyfriend (my first love / unhealthy relationship… ha), all my friends and everything I ever knew. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done (it’s a hard age to transition into a new school) and I never would have made it without my friend Whitney.
Despite being 7 hours apart, and my being sad, angry and depressed, she kept me going from day to day. She helped keep me connected with my old life and pushed me to begin a new one. She was there when my long-distance relationship failed and proved to me that long distance friendships can work. She has seen me at my worst and brings out the best in me.
We’ve now been friends for 14 years, and half of that has been long distance. I got married and moved around Ontario, and she went to Europe for a year. Sometimes a few months will go in between our conversations, but every time I pick up the phone it’s like no time has passed. We’ve both changed, but have tried hard not to let those changes change our friendship.
Aside from my Hubster, she is my very best friend. She refuses to let me go despite my sometimes craziness, and I love her for it. So yes, while I miss her fiercely and wish we lived in the same city, in some ways I’m glad we don’t. We always have an excuse to visit a different city to see each other, and appreciate each other all the more.
So yes, while I know your heart is breaking that your best friend is leaving, it doesn’t have to mean that something is ending. I really hope that you’ll stay close as I have with my friend because it’s totally possible.
She’s just a phone call away. xo
.-= Shop Girl*´s last blog ..Using Cell Phones While Driving – Yay or Nay? =-.
What a lovely tribute to your friend. She sounds amazing, indeed. Think of how fun the sleepovers will be when you two reunite for visits! You will always have something to look forward to now… your next get together with Jenn. I know it sucks, but try to look at it that way. And just think of all the pretty gifts she’ll buy you when she becomes rich and famous. heheh.
.-= Mermanda´s last blog ..The dress =-.
Friendships like this only grow stronger and more precious with distance because you can’t see each other on a daily basis. The phone calls, the letters, the emails they will become treasured. When do you see each other face to face again, it will be like you saw her yesterday, time will kalidescope, you’ll hug and laugh and everything will be as it should. This post is a beautiful tribute to your friendship with her. So very well written Kyla.
.-= mandy´s last blog ..Snapshots of Summer =-.
What a great friendship story!
My best friend lives back in Germany. We have been friends since 7th grade. I was there when she need me and she was there when I needed here. We are always staying in touch. By phone, email etc. Even if we hadn’t heard from one another for a while, we knew the other one was there. And even after a long time if not talking, we always connect. It’s the best. :)
.-= Stefanie´s last blog ..So what about babies? =-.
I’m the friend who moved away, but strangely, I don’t think that ever changed the friendships with my two high school best friends – Jenn (ironically) and Renee.
When I moved away to college, I’d ensure that every time I went back home, the three of us got together. We’d talk on the phone, by text, online otherwise, but it was necessary to have at least one dinner those weekends I was back. We still do that now, although the weekends are less frequent – especially since Jenn also moved away now.
This past July, the three of us decided to take a vacation together at a central beach spot we could all easily get to. It was THE BEST weekend we could have had, and nearly 10 years after I met them, it truly stengthened those bonds.
When people move away, it’s natural to go about your own lives and talk less, think of each other less often, and find new friends. But if you remember those people and what they mean to you, and they do the same, and you make a conscious effort to stay in touch and close, then any friendship can last. I don’t have to hear from these two girls to know that they are there for me no matter what happens, even if we haven’t spoken in weeks. And we always turn to each other when in need, whether for advice or just comfort. I think it’s the foundation that keeps our friendship strong, and if you and your Jenn have that – and it looks that way – then distance won’t matter in the long run.
.-= MinD´s last blog ..Too close for comfort. =-.
My best friend of 13 years lives in Pittsburgh (and I, in Philadelphia). We went to junior high & high school together and even to colleges in Pittsburgh that were about 30 mins. away from each other.
When I finally landed a job in Philly after college, I moved away. It was the hardest thing our friendship ever experienced because we didn’t know what life would be like for each other (or our friendship) being 300 miles away.
It’s been 5 years now since I’ve been in Philly and I have to say, these 5 years have been the best years of our friendship. We have learned not to take our friendship (or each other) for granted. And even though we only see each other a couple times a year, it’s like our friendship picked up where it left off. And we talk to each other nearly every day. That’s the important thing — keeping the lines of communication open, not just when it’s convenient.
Every friendship is different, but I am sure you and your BFF will do just fine! It’s always hard to leave them, but over time your friendship will grow even stronger than ever before.
.-= Kate´s last blog ..on being a bookish nerd =-.
Ahh, lovely, truly lovely. I’m not great with making too many friends and really understand how important the ones you hold closest are. Unfortunately, three of us moved away when we finished college, one stayed behind for graduate school, and the other two are working at opposite ends of the very wide country. We still call each other on birthdays (they called me yesterday on mine, one right after the other as if they planned it, but I suspect they didn’t), and we visit, roadtrip together whenever possible, which is regrettably not often enough. It’s been two and half years, and I think we’re still close, sometimes closer than before because we talk on the phone, Skype or use tokbox.com for video conferences when schedules permit.
The doctor I work for is nearly 70, and once a year, he and his buddies from medical school still meet up to just hang out, golf, sip wine and sing into the night as if they didn’t miss a day. I hope my friends and I pick that up, too, because it’s nice to see that it is possible to keep close despite the distance.
Oh I have so many stories of leaving a friend behind because I had to move. Or a friend leaving because they had to move.
Honestly, it’s all about keeping in touch through emails and phone calls. Sometimes through skype and trips to where they live or where you live. You won’t hear from them for a while, but that’s ok because a true friend, will always – ALWAYS – manage to pick up the phone and call you out of the blue to see how you’re doing.
.-= Marie´s last blog ..Sitting on a Bench =-.
AWWW! Sweetie! I’m so sorry that she moved away! Make sure she blogs so that you two can still share adventures!
.-= Miss Dallas´s last blog ..An evening with pirates, popcorn =-.
This is beautiful, Kyla, as always.
When I moved out west, I left everyone. I was demoted from Maid of Honour in my supposed best friend’s wedding because of it… she just didn’t understand that I couldn’t hang around Ontario, unemployed. I was willing to commute and told her I made the decision to move so it was my responsibility to be there and she just couldn’t comprehend what I was doing.
A few other friends I have are the exact opposite. Sarah I’ve known since highschool and we send messages and mail back and forth and when we get together it feels like we were never apart. Erin, my love, emails and texts her ilttle heart out… sharing all the joy and sadness. She’s one of the first people I contact when anything noteworthy happens. She’s come to visit me, I’ve gone to visit her… and every time we turn into bawling messes at the airport not because we’re sad to be apart but because we’re so happy to be together.
True friends will always be around, no matter how far they are away. That’s what I’ve learned. From the sounds of it, Jennifer is definitely never going to forget who her friends are… I think Toronto adventures sound fabulous.
.-= Elle Bee´s last blog ..Dear baby, do your momma a favour and come out now =-.
My best friends live across the country from me and it’s really hard. One thing we do is take a trip together every spring. No matter where we are, we have to set aside at least one weekend just for us. It’s not nearly enough time, but it’s always something to look forward to.
.-= Lindsay´s last blog ..Second Chances =-.
She sounds amazing and I know what you mean, I was panicking when my best friend moved to Amsterdam too. So far facebook, msn and twitter play a big part, so is skype.
.-= Andhari´s last blog ..My High School Ex is a Slut, so is My Ex-BFF =-.
Awe. hey kyla! The thing about long distance friendships is that if its strong it will survive and it will be stronger than ever before. After college, all my closest friends dispersed, heading off to faraway places such as Europe, the east coast and California. Only three remain in my state and even then they’re 2-6 hrs away. It sucks, and we try to keep up, but the nice thing is that even though time is passing and we’re doing our own things, the minute I hear their voices over the phone or receive an email from them, we pick right back up where we left off like no time had ever passed. It’s amazing to have friendships like that. Although I will tell you some friendships have faded into nothing, but the ones who truly care about you, will be the ones that stick around, way longer than you would ever expect. And those are the wonderful ones. Sometimes they’ll surprise you. I’m sorry your friend is moving away, but your friendship sounds wonderful and I’m sure the two of you will keep in touch.
So this made me tear up. I could only think of my best friend and how she left. She moved to CA from NC with her family about 5 years ago, and then last year she left back to NC for schooling. Needless to say, I could not think straight the first week or two that she was gone. And then I went to college, where I knew no one, and had to make all new friends. I had so much loneliness and pain, a pain that comes from a loss of my daily companionship. I still talked, and continue to talk, to her on a daily basis but its not the same, but you get used to it.
She came to visit me and her parents in CA this past June, and that was so much fun. I mean, its like old times. And then I went to NC for a month in July, so I lived with her for 30 straight days. Now that made up for 10 months of lost time.
But the thing is, nothing really changes. Once you get over the initial pain and loneliness, life moves on. You talk to her daily or every other day, you send fun letters and gifts, and then the time comes when she visits or you visit her. And its in those visits that you realize nothing changes. Its like she was never gone. Its like you reverted back to the day you parted ways, except those ways weren’t parted.
I know its easier said than done, but keep your chin up. You will survive. =D
.-= Kristi´s last blog ..On What I Want… =-.
I have a story for you, and her name’s Sue. And if you have had enough stories for today, just remind yourself that it’s not physical presence that makes a friendship lasting.
It’s what you carry around afterwards..So stay tough.
.-= Hning´s last blog ..Smelling Sexy & Coupling Cousins =-.
this was simply beautiful.
why don’t y’all start an actual journal in a regular old book and keep mailing it back and forth to each other.
that would be something really special to look at over the eyars.
.-= erin´s last blog ..games =-.
what a special tribute to your bff! you need to give her a copy of this as a going away gift.
one of my closest friends lives all the way in ny. “all the way” is relative, for it’s really only a 5 hour or so drive, and a quick flight.
we make it work. we talk every day, either email, or text. we don’t miss a beat. it’s hard being so far away, but we relish in our fun emails each day, the planning of trips to see one another. it makes the time we do spend together that much more special.
do we often wish we could just meet for an afterwork cocktail, at the drop of the hat? absolutely. but we work with what we have, and we MAKE it work.
you will too, i promise!
That’s tough. But you will get through it. My BFF lives in Nova Scotia and I’m in Ontario. Besides, Toronto is pretty awesome! :)
.-= Erin´s last blog ..Blogoversary! =-.
that was absolutely lovely, kyla!
living miles and miles from your bestie is definitely tough at times; but, in a way, i think it really makes you appreciate one another so much more. my bff linds and i have been friends since we were little tykes. so it was super tough when she moved to Boston last year. but having just got back from 5 fantastic days with her, i can say i’m kind of happy she moved. it was so fun to go experience first-hand the fabulous life she has made for herself. i couldn’t be more proud of her, just as you couldn’t be more proud of your Jenn :)
.-= cait´s last blog ..home. sweet. home. =-.
my best friend kelly and i…. we’re best friends because of the distance, not despite it.
time changes everything, and a far-away-friend could be just the thing you never knew you needed.
they can be that calm and knowing voice from outside the situation that can bring it all back to right now.
thats what kelly is to me.
maybe now you’ve found this too…..
<3
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When I was 21, I quit my crappy job, quit my crappy boyfriend, and moved to England. I did not know a single person in England. I was working in a pub when this crazy lady with the loudest laugh I have ever heard swept in and sat on a barstool and proceeded to become one of my most favourite people in the world. Long distance friendship is difficult and sometimes I ache for vanilla coffee and pecan buns in Lou’s sunny front room, but it’s worth it. I’d rather have friends who live far away from me than not have those friends in my life at all. Even the friendship is sustained by technology, and sometimes the friendship is neglected for the here and the now things, it’s still so precious to me.
Great post, lady. Hope you aren’t feeling too blue.
.-= hillary´s last blog ..It’s The Ride We Take The Many Winged Escape It’s The Bough We Break To Blow Away =-.
I can’t really say I’ve had a very good friend. I mean I have good friends, but I barely see them, if ever. We’re so far away but we take care of each other from where we are. It’s funny because they’re better friends than the people that I’ve lived close to my entire life. I hope you can continue having a wonderful friendship!
.-= Angel´s last blog ..Last Teenage Summer =-.
Aww, it truly sucks but you two sound close enough already that you two will have no problem keeping in touch and see each other.
I actually went through the same thing but I was the one that moved. H and I had been friends since 1st grade and went through pretty much everything together. We even had fun together just doing absolutely nothing and laugh all day/night long.
My parents decided to move our family when I was 16. I was furious, pissed, depressed, and thought my world was going to end. I had just gotten serious with Tyler (my husband now) and I didn’t want to leave H.
I think it was a struggle throughout the rest of our high school years. It was hard for me to balance my time with both of them when I visited them in Seattle.
When it came to college. We didn’t go to the same school. College was a new chapter in our lives and we both were so busy and it was easy to keep in touch every once a while but it was never the same again. We didn’t know what was going on with each other daily or the small stuff.
When I got engaged, I wanted her to be my maid of honor because she was the one that saw us together from the beginning and was there for me through all our problems. 2 months before the wedding, she told me online that she didn’t feel like she should be my maid of honor and didn’t have the heart to do it because she felt like we don’t know each other anymore. I was pissed off because it took her 3 months to finally tell me how she felt. It hurt to lose her like that.
She still came to the wedding because our parents are good friends. We immediately went back in that mode like nothing ever happened and had an awesome time together. Our families vacationed together in California earlier this Summer and again, we enjoyed each other. To this day, I still haven’t talked with her since that California trip. I miss her and miss what we had. I’m still glad we’re good friends…in person obviously.
Whew..sorry this turned out to be a long story.
.-= steph anne´s last blog ..A Cup of “Coffee” =-.
She has a great friend in you, writing such a beautiful post such as this.
Sending you lots of hugs during this rough time. xoxox
.-= Nora´s last blog ..A Look Back: Nora’s High School Journals =-.
Oh ♥. I was so upset when my best friend moved to another country (yeah, another COUNTRY) and it definitely took some getting used to. We still talk most days, though, chatting on the internet while we’re at work. We send each other presents on our birthdays, and skype when we can. It’s not the same as being there everyday, but OMG it makes the visits so much more awesome! When she comes home, or I visit Melbourne we have the BEST times, and it’s all filled with anticipation and excitement because WE’RE IN THE SAME COUNTRY!
Still, I worry, because in a couple of months shes moving to a different hemisphere, and the time zones will be super different, and the visits almost non-existent and I worry that it will affect how things are.
But like I said on twitter the other day, I recognize this worry is only because I care and totally ♥ her, and that because of that ♥ we’ll survive whatever comes our way. Even if it is different hemispheres. :)
.-= Elly´s last blog ..Appreciating the Old Quirky Things =-.
There is no need to make up lost time, because between real friends, no time is lost.
You can usually start over from where you left off, when you see each other (even though it won’t be that often anymore).
Having oved away to the US from my home country in Europe, I call myself an expert-long distance-friend :)
… And I just found my post topic for later tonight.
.-= Andy´s last blog ..Say WHAAAT? =-.
Most of my close friends live somewhere other than in the same city as me. I guess I’ve lived my whole life that way … moving around enough as a child that I got used to the long distance thing. The phone – always important for longer conversations. Email – a plus when you want to say something of length at an inopportune time. And text messaging for those spur of the moment things where you want your friend to be involved. And, of course, lots and lots of road trips. Look at it this way – you’ll always have a safe place to stay when visiting Toronto.
.-= SoMi’s Nilsa´s last blog ..Decompression =-.
Beautiful post. You’re clearly a GREAT friend, too!
As much as I hate it at times, facebook definitely helps with keeping in touch with people. For my very close friends I try to text them every few days and phone them once a week or so!
It can be hard, but like you said now you have an even better reason to go to Toronto!
.-= Amber from Girl with the Red Hair´s last blog ..Where there is a will… =-.
Awe, that was too sweet of you to write about your friend!
Most of my closest friends don’t live here, and honestly as much as it kind of sucks not seeing them, they are just a text, email, chat window away. My one closest friend left here is moving away, too, soon..but only for part of the week (part there one week, part here)…but I’m sure I’ll never get to see them. Yeah, it sucks.
.-= Alyssa´s last blog ..Before & After: Craft Room =-.
My best friend lives over 1800 miles away, and yet I still feel closer to her than some of my friends that live right around the corner. It’s difficult, and you don’t always get to talk or see each other as often as you like, but it seems like you have such a wonderful relationship that you’ll be able to keep her close in your heart!!
.-= Jennifer – Somewhere In Between´s last blog ..Wedding Weekend Wardrobe =-.
The majority of my friends don’t live close to me. I stay in touch with them primarily through emailing and text messaging throughout the day. Some of my friends I talk to so much it feels like I see them all the time…
.-= AuburnKat´s last blog ..Men, Men, Men =-.
My closest friend in the universe is my cousin Evan. Our mothers are sisters, and Ev has been my best friend since I was 6 months old. She has been there for every big moment of my life, and all of the little ones too, until she moved a couple of years ago. We had been roommates all through college and when she moved, I was devastated. But, we are incredibly close still. We talk every day (usually several times a day). We send cards randomly, just because. We still finish each other’s sentences. Yeah, she’s basically my favorite person ever. My point is, when you really love someone, the distance isn’t nearly as big a deal as you think it will be.
:hugs:
.-= Jill Pilgrim´s last blog ..Who Knew There Was Such A Large Market For Smurf Porn? =-.
Oh Kyla! I know how you feel entirely, and what a lovely post to write for your best friend. She really is gorgeous!
I’ve spent a good portion of my life moving around, and constantly uprooting and leaving my support system behind has always hurt way more than I can bear. Which resulted in always constantly missing somewhere, halfway around the world or just in another city. But you know, even though e-mails, sykpe dates and care packages aren’t the same as calling whenever you feel like it, the basis of your friendship will never change.
Your friendship sounds like a beautiful one. :)
.-= mae´s last blog ..cold feet, stunned eyes, numb heart =-.
Oh my goodness, you guys- thank you so much for your words! I’m setting Sunday aside to respond to all you properly, but for now thank you. <3
Dearest and loveliest Kyla,
That was a beautiful testament to a beautiful friendship. I have many long distance friendships, because I was the one that did the moving away last year.
My best friend, Stef, and I have been best friends for 19 years (and since I am only 22, that is saying something) and since moving away, our friendship has grown in ways I didn’t know possible. Everyday, and every time I talk to her, I love her more and more.
I think you will find a whole new side to your friendship, it will bloom and expand in ways that you never even knew.
Love,
Leah.
.-= Leah´s last blog ..Coming into focus =-.
You don’t make up for lost time. That time is not “lost” anyway… it’s true, she’s not physically present anymore, but she’s still your friend and that friendship can continue to grow over the distance. She can still be the person you call when something terrible or awesome happens and you just need to share it with someone. You can even have silly “girls’ nights” watching your favourite TV show with your favourite food over the phone and gossip about what’s going on with each other, or whatever works for you, you know?
But I think with a friendship like this one, you don’t have to make up for lost time because when you see her again, it will be like nothing ever changed. Your friendship will still be strong and intact, just like you remembered it.
And on a more practical note, I seriously can’t advocate Facebook enough. I know it’s stupid and it’s just Facebook, but seeing your friends’ regular updates about what’s going on in her life, seeing her photos, making silly comments on each others’ pages… it just makes it seem like she’s right there in front of you, not thousands of miles away. It helps.
.-= sparklytosingle´s last blog ..I should probably get the apology out of the way right here in the title =-.
My best friend moved from Minnesota to Arizona about 5 years ago. Our friendship is as strong as ever. We talk on the phone at least once a week – usually on Sundays – and we email most days. And I try to visit her once a year!
It’s tough to have a friend move away, but it doesn’t have to impact your friendship if you are diligent about keeping in touch!
.-= Lisa from Lisa’s Yarns´s last blog ..Running Rituals =-.
Because of my life choices, the majority of my friendships are long distance. I’m not sure that makes me good at it, it’s really just all I know.
.-= nicoleantoinette´s last blog ..jeans, a $50 giveaway, and yes this is my second post today but I DON’T CARE BECAUSE IT’S SO FUNNY AND WILL TOTALLY MAKE YOU WANT TO BE MY FRIEND A LOT MORE. OR A LOT LESS. BUT HOPEFULLY MORE BECAUSE IT’S SO FUNNY. =-.
i have a friend in Austria. she lives 900 km away from me. two or three days per week we are chatting via skype using the cam. it’s a funny time. we are drinking a cup of coffee together and talking about all the thing we have seen.
oh, this is such a wonderful story. i know what it is like to have such a wonderful friendship as that! i’ve had many friendships in my life, but it hasn’t been till adulthood that i’ve found my true kindred spirit in another girl. this girl is five years older than me but it is like there is no age difference. she is my best friend. we started off shy and awkward and knew each other for a year or so, even lived in the same house for a while, without opening up to each other. we were both so guarded that we had no idea what a rewarding friendship would lie on the other side of those walls. so, when a change took place in her life, it provided an opening, a break down in those walls took place, and we started to bond. it took place so slowly until i realized that she was so much like myself and she was wonderful, and she would be there for me no matter what. and she was. and she has been. and she is. she always knows the right thing to say, it’s almost like she’s in my head sometimes! so, she found love and had to move all the way across the country for a while, to be with him, which made me sad but of course she understood. but they came back, sort of, now they’re in LA and i’m in san diego, so in about 2 1/2 hours i can see her if i need to. it’s not the same as living 10 minutes away…but we need each other and we make it work. i sometimes feel as if she isn’t even that far away, because we make time for each other, in spite of the distance.
i know you will be ok. :)
.-= Lisa´s last blog ..it’s the san francisco treat. part one: on the street. =-.
Oh, Kyla. I’m sorry that she’s moving away from you, but I think that will lead the two of you to more adventures.
My best friend, my boy, is six hours away from me. It’s painful thinking about the distance, but luckily, we can chat every day (multiple times) on the phone. My friends from school who I adore and live different places are the same way. And whenever we get together? It’s time for major catching up, slumber parties, late night chats and the whole nine yards.
Friends moving away is a tough thing to deal with, but it’s also amazing to see their new life in a different city. *hugs*
.-= E.P.´s last blog ..Four years later: A look back =-.
I’m so sad your friend is moving away, but oh the stories she will come back with! I’m always so excited to hear when my friends are moving away, solely because it means they’re making it! They’ve got wonderful things going on in their life, and that is always great news. I’ve been really lucky that even when my best friend and I went to opposite ends of California, we can still get together, have coffee, and pick up right where we left off. There will be distance, but then it’s all that much sweeter when you do get to see each other. I hope her move goes smoothly!
.-= Steph´s last blog ..Timing =-.
Toronto is a great city to have an excuse to visit. But I’m so sorry she’s moving away. My best friend lives on the other side of the country and it’s so hard. But we have made a pact to get together at least once a year. We’re planning out next trip now. It’s so awesome to have that to look forward to!
.-= Allie´s last blog ..I think I might be done with gardening. Sort of. Maybe. =-.
Wow what an amazing post and testament to your friend. Amazing. For me, when friends move away, I just work twice as hard to stay in touch and keep up. Sadly, it’s never fully the same but you do the best you can and if you both work at it, it’ll work out.
.-= Jessica´s last blog ..Some strongly worded letters =-.
My friendships are not as strong as they once were and I am finally realizing that THAT’S NOT OKAY. I need them, I hope they need me. My heart is not complete otherwise.
Beautiful post, lovely.
.-= michelle woo´s last blog ..Sans makeup =-.
gorgeous heartfelt words – as i have come to expect on your fabulous blog -p.s. i tagged you on my blog – pop across for a visit if you have a sec – http://concretehoney.blogspot.com/2009/08/merci.html
.-= Nicola´s last blog ..Happiness is Homemade / Handmade =-.
Best of luck to your friend. She is absolutely gorgeous!
Long distance friendships are hard. My best has been in Toronto for the past year and a half, and will be there for a few more, until she finishes her degree. She’s my person, Meredith-Cristina style. I miss her incredibly – being on opposite sides of the country, and having a 3 hour time difference sucks when you’re used to sleepovers multiple times a week. But we put each other in our Fav 10, so we can talk as much as we want, whenever we want without worrying about the cost. We video chat, exchange emails, and blackberry messages all the time. I don’t get to see her as much as I’d like anymore, but I still know she’s always there for me, no matter what.
When she comes back, we have FUN. We did a 3 day sleepover while she was in town this summer, and although for two of the days I had to wake up and go to work in the morning, they were the best 3 days of summer. We built a fort. We stayed up late drinking wine. We went for walks, we rollerbladed the seawall and we retold all the stories we had already heard over the phone.
Saying goodbye is hard, but you guys will always have each other, whether you live on the same street, or across the world from one another.
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